Week 3 prompt: What do you think of the competency hearing? After hearing what happened in the other trial (the Bean case) did it change your feelings about how the hearing went?
That competency hearing was a joke! They had no idea what they were doing with a child like Jacob nor were they interested in finding out either! They should have been able to tell by his behavior that he was not a normal adult. They didn't notice the lack of eye contact, the rocking, the flapping? After hearing about the Bean case it terrified me that our court systems could be this incompetent! It didn't surprise me it saddened me that there would be no other outcome for him. What is even worse it took them 3 days to almost undo what it took her 15 yrs to do bring him back to this world and they were all willing to look the other way.
This is what terrifies me, my son is not violent he is a teddy bear anyone that knows him knows this! But he has Soto Syndrome a type of overgrowth Syndrome. So at 11 developmentally 7 in some areas in some he knows more than some college students. He is 5'7 260lbs in a men's 12 shoe. He will give you hugs and hugs on his terms but you hug him unexpectedly and he will think you are trying to hurt him and can turn raging bull. Put in Jacob's situation without me with him he would have been the same way fighting them screaming reciting movie lines trying to get them to understand him since he doesn't have the right words to use. His lack of social skills hindering his way to a fair trial and a system failing him, to ready to just put him in an institution. Like they were so ready to do when he was 3 and told us we would never get him back and he would be to big for us to control.
Sorry for the ramble but there is one last thing Shane my younger son... I see now through this book how much he truly was pushed to the side by me not intentionally I love him so much but I was concentrating so hard on trying to get Jor back to us that I let him slide. I knew I had a husband and two daughters but that's not an excuse. Would I have done that if I was a single parent without older daughters I don't know. I will now try harder to spend more time with him and hope its not too late.
Can I just say I love the book and I HATE Autism!
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I really admire you for having the courage to admit a lack in your relationship with your younger son. I am sure you are doing a fantastic job in every way you can. It takes such a brave person to go against what the doctors say and not just "institutionalize" him.
ReplyDeleteI agree, love the book, and dislike autism. I am really nervous for how it will turn out.